Today, September 13th, is my 13th wedding anniversary! My goodness time has flown! In honor of our special day I’m posting the 13 things I’ve learned about marriage in the last 13 years, in no particular order.
- Marriage is seasonal, just like everything else. Sometimes it’s hot and heavy, sometimes it’s a little cool. Just like the seasons of nature it was created this way by God and no season should be considered a “bad” season. Everything has it’s time and purpose.
- Iron sharpening iron isn’t usually a pleasant experience.
- Marriage isn’t easy!
- A good marriage is about two people giving 100%, not a 50-50 split.
- Women need love the same way men need respect (thank you Emerson!).
- When it really comes down to it, being right isn’t as important as being happy.
- My husband cannot replace God in my life. I can’t require him to do the things that only God can do.
- There is not actually a right way and a wrong way to do most things. If my husband is helping I should be grateful before I’m critical.
- I want to be my husband’s greatest cheerleader. If someone else is telling him how great he’s doing I want to do it louder, prouder, and more often.
- I should never ask my husband any question I don’t want a really honest answer to.
- Think before you speak. Think again if it’s to criticize.
- 90% of the time the thing that divides us is only of about 2% importance. Why it feels so much more important at the time I still haven’t figured out- Ha!
- My spouse will never see our world the same way I see it. God created us different in this way to give us better perspective. Our differing perspectives is a blessing.
Father in Heaven, Thank you for 13 (mostly) wonderful years of marriage. The road has never been easy, but it’s frequently been fun. My husband is a wonderful partner. I can depend on him for insights into things that I can’t see. Thank you for the way you’ve gifted us differently in order to compliment each other. Continue to teach me how to be a better wife. Continue to make me into the wife he needs me to be. In Jesus name, amen.