15 years ago this was the wedding passage my husband and I read to each other as we passionately leaped into marriage. We found this passage soothing, loving and simply perfect. After all, we were very patient and kind to one another. We were not envious, boastful or rude nor were we easily angered. In fact, we were wrapped together by ribbons of trust, honesty and kindness. There was no room for our egos or Fear because our souls, united with God, were pure LoVE.
But, I must confess, as the years moved onward and our lives became blessed with three beautiful boys, our own small business, family, school, a home and just abundant love, we found our souls to be lost and weak many times over. In fact, I cannot lie, our marriage has had days that felt very opposite of this amazing verse. At times we found family, money and work to easily anger us. Fear entered and invited some friends. Rude and anger eagerly accepted. We had stressful and self’-seeking moments where our egos clashed and battled, refusing to go down without a fight. Yes, fear and anger knocked at our front door and we unknowingly welcomed them in. Life rattled our souls and hearts.
Amazingly however, the ups and downs of our marriage forced us to look Fear straight in they eyes. And although we learned that only LoVE was real, we also learned to forgive ourselves and realize that it is human to come from our ego. We learned to surrender Fear, anger, rudeness and suffering to God, but most of all, to keep coming from LoVE. In our marriage we work everyday at making sure our words, thoughts and actions are kind, loving and self-less. We forgive ourselves, as well as one another, and allow LoVE to enter in our front door right behind Fear. In fact, it is LoVE that boots Fear out.
And so, the above verse has more meaning since our wedding day. Our love has never been more patient, kind or self-less. We understand the depths of trust, hope and protection. LoVE is the only path to a happy and wonderful marriage. It will protect you and your spouse in unimaginable ways, and as the years go by, if you both come from LoVE and not Fear or your ego, your lives will be full of abundant happiness.
Dr. Lisa DeRogatis Sulsenti is a chiropractor and nutritionist who owns a family wellness center with her loving husband. They are nestled in NJ raising three amazing boys.She created her website, Naked Moxie, to help inspire women to learn how to live happy and in the soul rocking moment. Her website provides tools to eat well, live well, and make dreams happen.