I have mentioned several times that I have an incredible husband. His constant kindness to me truly makes me want to do all I can to show him how much I appreciate him. Back in October I wrote a guest post for the Time-Warp Wife and in it I detailed 5 of the things I do to keep my marriage strong. By all means click over and read it if you have a second. In case you don’t, here’s the short version of the list:
- I take an extra minute in the morning to really notice my husband.
- I make my husband coffee in the morning.
- When he calls to check in I stop what I’m doing so that I can have a real conversation with him- even if it’s short.
- I spend time looking into my own interests so that when we talk I have something interesting to say.
- I go to bed at the same time as my husband whenever possible.
These things are working and my husband and I are enjoying a marriage that keeps getting better. Over the last year I’ve learned a few more things that I can do. Here are 3 things I’m planning to add in 2012:
- Really commit to growing my hair out. Because my husband is one of those men who really digs long hair. And yes, it drives me crazy when it gets pulled by… Well, pretty much by everything. But he makes up for it by playing with it. A lot. And I like to have my hair played with. And besides, I can always pull it back when it gets really annoying.
- Listen to the same audio books he’s listening to. My husband and I have a tradition of watching TV together in the hour or so between when the kids go to bed and we go to bed. Recently I discovered that one of his goals for 2012 is to read (and by that I mean listen to) at least 1 book a month. Like a lot of men, my husband doesn’t have a lot of extra time at his disposal. When he confided in me that he was concerned he wouldn’t have the time to reach his goal I suggested that we skip TV and use that time to listen to his books together. I wish there was a way to show you how excited he got, because he got really excited. Just before the 1st we purchased a subscription to Audible and we’ve been listening to The Great Divorce by C.S. Lewis. Not only do I feel great about helping my husband reach one of his goals, but I’ve also discovered that this activity gives us a lot to talk about too. Our relationship is deepening from the experience.
- Wear pretty pajamas or nightgowns to bed. In reading my mom’s journals over the last several days I discovered this was one of the things she wishes she had done more often. Because they made my step-dad happy and reminded her that she was a beautiful woman, not just a caretaker and a mom. I know I need that reminder too, because it’s too easy to forget sometimes. And when I feel pretty I act differently. I smile more. I flirt with him a little. I laugh more easily.